Core Protective Patterns Quiz

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You have an important decision to make and there's no clear right answer. What happens inside you?*

I feel pressure to make the best choice.

I need a plan before I can relax.

I distract myself with other things.

I feel anxious about what could go wrong.

I wonder how my decision will affect others.

You send a text to someone important to you. An hour passes. No response. What goes on inside you?*

I hope I didn’t upset them.

I want to put my phone down, but keep checking it.

I feel irritated being left in limbo.

I keep rereading it, thinking I could’ve said it better.

My mind starts going to what might be wrong.

Your partner or someone close to you seems distant, though nothing has been said. You:*

Bring it up after I know exactly what to say.

Start wondering what you could have missed.

Wish they’d just tell you what’s wrong so you can deal with it.

Wait to see if it resolves itself.

Reach out to make sure things are okay.

Your boss gives you mixed feedback on a project you put a lot of time into. Your immediate reaction is:*

They’re right. I should have done it better.

I hope this doesn’t cost me a future opportunity.

I feel stung and process it alone.

I feel defensive. I put a lot into this.

I hope I didn’t let them down.

Q5. There's a conversation you know you need to have, so you:*

Keep thinking about it, but avoid actually having the conversation.

Script out what you’re going to say.

Avoid it so you don’t upset them or cause more tension.

Start thinking about all the ways it could go wrong.

Address it before it becomes a bigger issue.

Someone else gets the very thing you've been wanting — a relationship, a job opportunity, recognition. Your first reaction is:*

Finding out what they did so I can do the same.

Longing. I want it too. When is it my turn?

A drop in my stomach. What if it never happens for me?

Thinking about how I’m falling short.

Happy for them, though if I’m honest, a little jealous.

You got the promotion you've worked hard for. Your immediate reaction is:*

Pressure to start really strong.

Needing to get a handle on what comes next.

Excitement, but what if I can’t handle it?

Pride, but not wanting to make a big deal about it.

Happy, but hoping my colleagues don’t feel overlooked.

Your doctor says you need a procedure — nothing life-threatening, but you'll need some recovery time. Your mind goes straight to:*

What if something goes wrong?

Not wanting to be a burden while I recover.

How to recover as efficiently as possible.

Everything that needs to be scheduled and organized.

Keeping it quiet and managing on my own.

You decide to start a new health or wellness routine. What happens?*

I keep it to myself in case I don’t follow through.

I wonder if I’ll actually be able to stick with it.

I create structure so I stay on top of it.

I hire an expert (a coach or trainer) to make sure I’m doing it right.

I need to figure out how to squeeze it in around everyone else.

You're in a room full of people you don't know. You feel:*

Anxious, hoping you don’t say the wrong thing.

Eager to connect but don’t want to seem pushy.

A strong desire to make a good impression.

Like scanning the room and deciding strategically who to approach.

Like hanging back and observing until you get a feel for the room.

You find out that friends made plans without including you. You immediately feel:*

Surprised. Why wouldn’t they want me to join?

Bothered, but don’t want to show it.

Hurt, and wondering what you may have done wrong.

Irritated, and wanting to find out why you weren’t invited.

Nervous and wonder if something has changed between us.

You realize you missed a friend's birthday. In that moment you:*

Want to fix it right away so it doesn’t become a bigger issue.

Reach out and joke about what a space case you are.

Can’t believe you let that happen.

Hope it hasn’t damaged the friendship.

Immediately reach for your phone to apologize.

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